I had been sitting at my table for
15 minutes, with neither a menu nor a glass of water. For the fifth time I put
up my hand and waved at the waitress who pretended she didn’t see me. When our
eyes finally met, I gave her a big smile and mouthed the word carte. She gritted her teeth and said:
“Monsieur, je n’ai que deux mains.” It meant she only has two hands.
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| He is always "beezie" |
To many frequent travelers to
Europe, my rather unpleasant dinner at the Parisian restaurant is an all too
familiar scene. From store clerks in Rome to bus drivers in Geneva and
airport security in London, customer-facing personnel in Europe is trained to be
rude. The situation is particularly egregious in France because you are
expected to speak their language and they are protected by labor law and
unions. And bad service always goes hand-in-hand with inefficiency. Whether you are
checking into a hotel or getting a tax refund at the airport, everything takes
twice as long and is ten times harder. If you don’t believe me, try opening a
bank account in Europe and you’ll get an idea. When the European debt crisis first
hit two years ago, as Germany and France scrambled to bail out Greece and
Portugal while Spain and Italy teetered on the brink of a recession, I wondered
whether their reckoning was a long time coming.
These are broad generalizations of
course. On my last trip to Spain, for instance, I ran into some of the
friendliest and most helpful service people. In Madrid, the hotel concierge
Marianna phoned her mother to get me a list of top paella restaurants in town.
But Marianna is the exception rather than the rule. For all its rich culture,
high fashion and breathtaking landscapes, Europe is decades behind the rest of
the industrialized world in customer service. My European friends, especially
those who have lived in Asia for a number of years, would be the first to agree
with my assessment. One of the main reasons is perhaps the very thing that
makes Europe a great place: equality. In Europe, the server demands as much respect
as the one being served, which explains why the waiter has no qualms telling
you to “please wait” and the cashier sees nothing wrong in saying “can’t you
see I’m busy!” And because service people treat you like an equal, they expect
you to know that they really do only have two hands.
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| Good luck getting his attention |
On the other side of the Atlantic
is a very different scene. In America, as the cliché goes, the customer is
always right. At any given restaurant, a bubbly waitress will usher you to your
table, get on one knee to take your order and check on you throughout the meal
with a smiley “how’s everything today?” And yes, her name is Katie and you can
just holler if you need another refill on that soda. Change your mind about
those GAP jeans? Bring them back within 90 days for a full refund. You don’t
even need a receipt. Unhappy with the service? Ask to speak to the supervisor
and receive a coupon in appreciation of your valuable feedback. Try doing the
same in Italy and all you would get is a dry laugh and an obscene gesture.
But nothing is actually free in the
Land of the Free. Tipping is a big part of the service industry and how much to
tip and when you need to do it are questions that can trip up even the most
seasoned of travelers. In New York, for instance, a 15% gratuity is just a
starting point, a bare minimum. When you check into a hotel, the going rate for
taking your luggage to the room is US$5 per piece. I’ve had a bellboy standing
in my room with his hand outstretched asking, “where is my tip?” Then there are
the taxi drivers, the doormen, the coat check ladies and the restroom attendants.
Leave Katie a 10% tip and she will run after you to the door and ask you what
she did wrong. In a country that doesn’t believe in free lunches, being always
right carries a hefty price.
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| She'd better have a few dollar bills ready |
When it comes to customer service,
there is no place like Asia. Asian airlines, hotels and airports are
consistently rated the best in the world. Service staff in this part of the
world, especially those in Japan and Thailand, bend over backwards to
accommodate the customer. They rarely expect a tip and never ask for it. But surely
there are exceptions. A weekend in Shanghai, the wealthiest city in China, will
provide ample evidence that customer service is a state of mind that takes
years to develop. It doesn’t happen overnight no matter how much money you
throw at it. The waitresses at the über-chic Park Hyatt Shanghai are all smiles
and ready to please. But ask for a vegetarian menu and they get all confused
and recommend the chicken salad.
While the level of service in Asia
can be uneven, service people are almost always friendly and obliging. The
tendency to oblige means that persistence and a bit of attitude can often get you
more than you are first told. Taking advantage of the cultural differences,
some expats living in Asia have grown accustomed to raising their voices just
to see how far they can push. An American friend living in Jakarta once gave me
a piece of advice: “Just scream at the locals and they’ll do anything for you.
They don’t like confrontations.”
It upsets me because I know he is right.
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| Service with a smile |
In Hong Kong, the service industry
has seen remarkable progress since the city came of age in the 70s. It wasn’t
too long ago when store clerks still gave shoppers dirty looks for “just browsing”
and bank tellers yelled at customers for not filling out a deposit form. But
since the government’s famous advertising campaign starring celebrity Andy Lau (劉德華) to promote quality customer service, the hospitality industry as a whole has
undergone a cultural revolution. One of the first things that hit me when I
repatriated to Hong Kong seven years ago was how far the city’s service
industry has come. When the cashier at 7-Eleven handed me my change and said, “Thank
you, please come again,” I got a little misty-eyed.
In Hong Kong, progress often comes
with a few quirks. It is not unusual to see store managers discipline their
staff in front of customers. It is a misguided way to demonstrate vigorous
training and strict quality control. It is a Hong Kong thing. Another bizarre
development is the universal mispronunciation of the simple phrase “may I help
you?” Pronounced as “may I help choo,”
this greeting echoes through hotel lobbies and customer service hotlines. And
because Southeast Asian countries often look to Hong Kong for best practices,
I’ve noticed that hotel staff in Bangkok and Hanoi are starting to make the
same mistakes. What these countries need to realize is that Hong Kong may be a
lot of things, but an English teacher it is not.
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| One of the several tourism board commercials featuring a much younger Andy Lau |
Every time I travel outside of
Asia, I am reminded how lucky and spoiled I am to live in this part of the
world. For all the things I complain about in Hong Kong, it only takes a trip
abroad to realize how good I have it here. Whether I am making a dinner
reservation, asking for directions at the MTR or even disputing my tax bill
with the government, service people in Hong Kong are courteous, efficient and
responsible. I went to high school in Europe and travel back at least once a
year. I simply can’t imagine living there again and having to deal with the
je m’en fiche (I don’t care) mentality
on a daily basis. And to all those expats living in Asia who bark unreasonable
demands at locals, try to remember what things are like back home.
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| Customers in Asia are spoiled rotten |
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This article previously appeared in the September 2012 issue of MANIFESTO magazine under Jason Y. Ng's column "The Urban Confessional."







The first reader who gets the obscure reference in the title will win a prize!!
ReplyDeleteJason
What obscure reference? U quoting those dismissive question by those sales/ waitresses/ air hostesses who are the last to give a damn as to whether you are really being served? The ones they dispensed without freely to anyone?
ReplyDeleteChristine
Not so obscure!
ReplyDeletePete
Not for you, Pete. And don't you give away your age!! :-)
ReplyDeleteI guess the prize goes to Pete Spurrier. I'll buy you a beer. How's that?
Jason
"Are you being served" was an old British comedy about department stores. I don't need to google that. It was re-played in NZ when I was a student there. Are you referring to that? I spot the title and thought of the show right away. But I didn't finish reading your article, so I didn't dare to comment until I saw Christine's comments. Hehe.
ReplyDeletePhil
Absolutely agree that "When it comes to customer service, there is no place like Asia.". Among all, the Japanese are definitely the best.
ReplyDeleteAndrew
Bingo, Phil!! But Pete got it before you did... :-)
ReplyDeleteI used to watch it at 2:00 in the morning when I was in New York. It's always on re-run. Funny stuff!
jason
Yea, "Captain Peacock, don't touch my pussy without asking me!"
ReplyDeleteWe all remember that one well, Jeff. :-)
ReplyDeleteJason
Oh, having lived in US and Europe and having visited Asia frequently, I agree wholeheartedly!
ReplyDeleteThe bit about opening a bank account in Europe (which I had to do last year) brought me to tears.
Thank you for this.
Monica
I knew the answer, but toooooo late :-(
ReplyDeleteRoss
I remember in HK years ago, the waiter brought change, showed it to you for 10 seconds, and if you weren't quick enough to grab it, absconded with the whole thing. Now, no tipping. Thank you mainland China! N. American service is abysmal, the French are outright hostile. 15% is more than enough in tipping counties. I was followed from an NYC restaurant where I had left 10%. "Was something wrong with the service?" Of course not, so I pocketed the chump change I had left and exited, leaving nothing due to rudeness.
ReplyDeleteRoss
Monica and Ross, thanks for sharing your experiences. Looks like we are in agreement!
ReplyDeleteJason
I agree with the last comment of Ross. Even with a Chinese restaurant I am very well acquainted with, and I guess partly coz' I used to tip them quite generously, they seem to expect me to do the same every single time and once, one of them actually asked me outright for the tip !!! Big shocked then...
ReplyDeleteChristine
Dear Jason,
ReplyDeleteTo echo your sharing, may I share this appreciation platform with you: www.praisage.com, a new start-up aiming to promote the appreciation culture in the society and to enhance our praise-quotient!
Let's see if you would get some insight from it!
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Founder & Co-Creator | Praisage
Well written, couldn't agree more :)
ReplyDeleteThe strange thing is that you are local yet you still have good opinion about service quality. I've been trying to explain the differences to my friends in HK and they've always had one reply: "It's because you are gweilo". I do agree that foreigners are treated a little bit better than locals but in my opinion the difference is marginal. My HK friends would never admit that Hk has high standards when it comes to customer service quality :) Maybe it's that strange HK thing about complaining on everything :)
Anyway, great article
Here is a true story of me: Years ago when my first time to came to France, I've tried to ask the way in the travelers counter...
ReplyDeleteThe staff was speaking to me with a fluent tongue, "Don't ask me, I don't know English!"
That's a good one, 恒一.
ReplyDeleteI had a similar experience at a department store in Paris. I asked one of store clerks where the toilet was, and she said: "Why do you assume I speak English? You will have to ask me again in French. This is France." I said to her: "How do you say 'bitch' in French?"
Jason
Jason,
ReplyDeleteJust an additional quick comment which I experienced over the past few days, with totally mixed feelings.
I need to get a flamenco dress/skirt plus fan plus castanet for a potential performance. You know these are not the types of gear that you can just walked into any shop to get, so I did a quick google search, and I did locate one which looked professional enough. Well well well
1. I emailed them and there was no response. I called them up and the lady does not seem to know what I was talking about at all despite repeating myself again and again like a parrot. And she speaks fluent Cantonese, it's not as if we are speaking different languages. That is one of those visit by appointment places. She sounded very agitated and exasperated and impatient all along and eventually told me she was having a class unceremoniously. So we just cut the call short.
2. On a second occasion I got the details online about another shop selling something else I'd like to get, also visit by appointment. So I called them up again. This time the lady who answered the call was even more discourteous to the point of arrogance. I don't think I get looked down/talked down that badly even if I am to walk into de Beers in absolute tatters today. That lady didn't seem to care whether she get my custom or not so as you guessed it, the line was cut on both sides not too quietly.
3. I checked out a small shop close to my office selling simple dance and ballet gear the other day, not really expecting much as they seem to cater more to the ballet clientele. To my surprise I did get a simple skirt there (maybe not the most fancy performance dresses, more likely to be a practise skirt which might just do the trick) and a small fan and very very friendly and helpful service. They even promise to contact their supplier and other sources for me to see if they can secure what I want. With that, I am hugely impressed and grateful and I was hoping they will be able to get what I need so that I can give them more custom.
There goes my waffling, but what is it about the online business in Hong Kong that give them such an arrogant / impatient / bad attitude? Or is my request too outrageous? But they profess to be the professional in their products and I expect them to answer my questions at least if not deliver what I need?!
Enough complaints : <
Christine
Probably because you were buying only one dress and a rare one at that...
ReplyDeleteJason
The French are definitely some of the rudest people on earth. I don't speak French either, but I've found that whenever I prefaced a question with a "Parlez vous Anglais", things would go quite smoothly afterwards. My sample size is obviously small, 15 to 20 people, but my opinion is that the French takes offense if you simply assume that they speak English, but if you cared to clarify your assumption, they are generally much friendlier.
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